Picked up the sort of girlfriend tonight at the airport. It all seemed good, just keep it shallow and focused on fun I thought.....but all the while I just had this feeling more went on in Miami than just visiting friends.
She came back singing a different tune, in fact, saying how she loved me blah, blah, blah ...
Yeah I know she is a dancer, and I know strippers lie, but every once in a while the fasade drops and you really make a connection. I admit it's normally right before I paint a pearl necklace but tonight the game was different....somehow feelings got involved....and the words "I love you" spoken. This freaked me out, more than I was prepared for.
WTF was I thinking? I feel stupid for posting this , but she is OMG hot, and well I had more than one shot of Patron tonight. I got gifts from Miami, but couldn't help but feel like they were for her benifit more than mine....I suspect to ease her conscience. We didn't have a committment, so the attitude change could have been guilt for what she did, caused by potentially her acknowledment of real feelings for me.....confusing.....did I mention she is hot. It also dosen't hurt when she is the best sex you've had since your X moved to LA, and she drives a C5. The first time she followed me home...we raced. I think I loved her then.
I know, I know..don't fall for someone like this, but sometimes I swear it's not that black and white. She is latin, beautiful, exciting, easy to get along with, and loves to party and have sex....is there more I ask myself. If there is, how important can it be.
Why am I sitting here telling you this? The answer is because you can learn from my drama's with strippers and the mental defectiveness with which they play a cruel game. We are all men, and all give it our best shot to understand the understandable.....women. Who can hurt Who was the game tonight....is it so hard to feel good about each other's company, to be wanted and cared for? Obviously for her and I it is. Things like this, even though you know they aren't real...can still sting like a bitch.
I almost forgot....lol. When she slid across me in bed tonight let's just say I had a sixth sense someone had been there recently. Game over, with her shedding tears of an academy award actress I put on my clothes and left. I refused to get played....Fuck her. I sit here listening to "I am the Highway" by Audioslave, typing and thinking you guys are cheaper than a shrink, sometimes it just feels good to vent.....what a trip? Why did she have to go mess things up? More importantly..how did I let her get this close....I messed up.
I wish I had dated one at one time. There would be no trouble with me and her work. I would be very pleased to know that she was coming home to me. It is just in this case, she has been flamed by a former and looking for a pillow to cry on.
First, strippers are evil. Their job is based around trading sex or the illusion of sex for money. That makes them somewhat blase about normal notions of appropriate conduct. Nearly all of them cheat on husbands and boyfriends.
Second, what makes you think she was up to no good on this particular occasion?
Look, we're all guys here(for the most part, I'm sure there are a few [img]/images/graemlins/greddy.gif[/img]also). I am just stating for the record an option, nothing else.
Yeah I know she is a dancer, and I know strippers lie, but every once in a while the fasade drops and you really make a connection. I admit it's normally right before I paint a pearl necklace but tonight the game was different....somehow feelings got involved....and the words "I love you" spoken.
classic...I was howling when I read this. Not laughing at you, just they way you wrote it was funny.
I say keep your distance, but also keep her on the back burner, and definately see other people. I have been there...and have had friends who have been there. Not to say rippers are bad, just that the odds for a long-lasting relationship are not in your favour. Which really sucks because a lot of these women are hot as hell.
Take comfort knowing that many guys have felt like you have. Judging from your post, its length and content...you are still head over heels about this girl. Roll with it, but keep all other options open.
Yeah I know she is a dancer, and I know strippers lie, but every once in a while the fasade drops and you really make a connection. I admit it's normally right before I paint a pearl necklace but tonight the game was different....somehow feelings got involved....and the words "I love you" spoken.
classic...I was howling when I read this. Not laughing at you, just they way you wrote it was funny.
I say keep your distance, but also keep her on the back burner, and definately see other people. I have been there...and have had friends who have been there. Not to say rippers are bad, just that the odds for a long-lasting relationship are not in your favour. Which really sucks because a lot of these women are hot as hell.
Take comfort knowing that many guys have felt like you have. Judging from your post, its length and content...you are still head over heels about this girl. Roll with it, but keep all other options open.
I feel your pain, brother. I recently ran the course of spending a few months with a stage-strutting flesh delicacy. Fun for a little while, then a big fucking migraine. I knew it was ill-advised the moment my roving lust eye grabbed her into focus, swinging from a low hung trapeze, and set my mojo into motion. To not get hooked, it takes realizing that dancing is not merely a job for these skin sirens, it's an identity. They need the validation and to feel special as much as they need the cash. Trust me, don't listen when they tell you they're just doing it to put themselves through school. Maybe that's true here and there, but in most cases striking their best Playboy pose on stage is an addiction for them. Ever see how they're usually more interested in staring at themselves in the mirror than they are in making eye contact with you? Men are a game to them--an effortlessly-seduced, libidinous oaf whose ambition to pilot the choad into ascetically pleasing harbor makes them easy prey.
It sounds like this girl knew you were into her, which, if your hunch is right about Miami, probably gave her the green light to step outside your relationship for a little no-strings-attached vacation love; you were a good bet to forgive her for it. All she had to answer to was her own guilt, which may or may not be genuine. If you're in it for the fun of tapping that fine piece of A, then double bag it and keep enjoying the ride until it ends. If you feel that you're deeper into it than that, get the hell out now. If she did it once, she'll do it again. And let's face it, if her feelings for you were analogous to that theatric spew she laid on you in the car, she'd have no reason for guilt and you'd have no reason to doubt to her. Don't let her play you, Jason. Because she's an insecure, duplicitous, self-esteem seeking shack job doesn't excuse her shitting on you. Throw her the stones one more time, so you can pepper her face with one last shot of procreative misogyny, then leave her in your Z06Dust.
Fellow vette brother I have been in a similiar situation. And had a blast.
Back in undergrad I did the striper thing for a while. Im not saying don't do it. I am saying, Do it... All of it. And then do her freinds. And their freinds. ALWAYS WEAR PROTECTION! Live this life for a while. There is nothing wrong with going fuck wild on a bunch of strippers. Just protect yourself. (and your stuff)
Dating strippers is tough. The sex and looks can draw you in. And most of them preach a similiar sermon about how they love you and so on....
As soon as you feel you are falling for it, it is time to go fuck one of her freinds.
The question is, are you tough enough to endure a suto-relationship with a stripper type? If your own mind can handle it then go for it..
Suggestion----- Take pictures and video. [img]/images/graemlins/laughing.gif[/img]
Here is a risk you are taking.. You are taking the risk that your internal mind has raised the bar for sexual standards.... You may not be happy with non-stripper girls for a while. You may think they are amatures per se'. Here is another risk... The OTHER boyfreind (s). Like the one she just saw in FL. and the other two she has in waiting. Well one of these guys may not know the game, get emotionally hooked and decide the best way to win is to eliminate the competition. Im not kidding about this. Think about it.
Third risk, she freaks on you in a big way. Most of these girls have issues. They can all be very vindictive and most have lots of street smarts.
Enjoy yourself and or walk away. But always stay two steps ahead in the game.
They say the male body can actually detect the presence of sperm from another male. The result is an increase in output to overcome the invading sperm.
I'm just wondering too.. Did you know she cheated or was it just a feeling? Perhaps a way to get out of your relationship because of the fact she was a stripper and has amazing potential to trash you once you are hooked?
Just curious...
