Question for a friend of mine. They are looking at divorce. Two girls involved, 3years old and 1.5. The female is looking to move 160 miles away, across state lines. The guy owns his own business, which keeps him busy 7 days a week. She has a job which can be had in almost any major city. She makes more money than him at this point.
Any experience here with a divorce and the EX moving that far away? How does that normally work with this kids? Wouldn't seem real fair to have the ability to move them away. Then again, I'm told divorce is never fair.
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I wouldn't think there is a whole lot for this guy to do. If he is busy 7 days a week it's hard to show that he will be able to provide a stable home with a descent amount of supervision. If he gets joint custody I believe he has to agree to her moving if its over a certain distance, but don't quote me on that. Either way it's going to be a shitty situation for all.
She can get a job anywhere, she makes more money, he works so much he can't have time to raise kids alone. Add in the fact that there is a biased action in law to give kids to the women means that all the guy can really hope for is to see his kids twice a year.
Question for a friend of mine. They are looking at divorce. Two girls involved, 3years old and 1.5. The female is looking to move 160 miles away, across state lines. The guy owns his own business, which keeps him busy 7 days a week. She has a job which can be had in almost any major city. She makes more money than him at this point.
Any experience here with a divorce and the EX moving that far away? How does that normally work with this kids? Wouldn't seem real fair to have the ability to move them away. Then again, I'm told divorce is never fair.
Can he say screw it to the business, get a job that pays well and keep the family together? That's far more important in the long run.
That's only if a single person can keep a family together, but it takes two. Only if he's the one that wants the divorce can he decide to do something about it, but if it's already come to that then in the long run it is unlikely his best option to try to make it work.
Question for a friend of mine. They are looking at divorce. Two girls involved, 3years old and 1.5. The female is looking to move 160 miles away, across state lines. The guy owns his own business, which keeps him busy 7 days a week. She has a job which can be had in almost any major city. She makes more money than him at this point.
Any experience here with a divorce and the EX moving that far away? How does that normally work with this kids? Wouldn't seem real fair to have the ability to move them away. Then again, I'm told divorce is never fair.
All I can say (because I've heard first-hand, horror stories of my friends in this situation) you need to make sure your friend has a great lawyer. And when I say great, I mean one that fucking knows how to win favorable custody arrangements and makes sure the wife doesn't get away with all kinds of shit.
If your friend loses concessions in the beginning, he'll have almost 0% chance of getting them in the future. Now is not the time to be a good guy about things. Now is not the time to be friends with the ex and try to make things pleasant. NOW *IS* the time to make sure he's covered and gets a fair deal.
Without knowing who cheated on who, who was "at fault", etc... it's a hard call...but if your friend is the innocent one....I'd make sure she didn't/couldn't leave the city/county.
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I have been in this same situation and it sucks. Sadly the courts do not really care about the distance and will expect your friend to drive to see his kids. I went through years of fighting for custody of my girls and I never won despite the many number of attempts and piles of police reports surrounding my ex.
No matter what, you tell your friend to love his kids and always teach and show them the love. In the end, when they grow up, they will know which parent was always there for them. Mine did and my relationship is really close now despite the pain that they and I saw.
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I wouldn't think there is a whole lot for this guy to do. If he is busy 7 days a week it's hard to show that he will be able to provide a stable home with a descent amount of supervision.
Yet if a woman works 7 days a week, has no time for kids...judge still grants them custody
Cusious what business he has that has him working 7 days a week, yet she can get any job and make more money then him? Doesn't sound like a good business
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