It's not that easy though when you still have feelings for her though like i do....
I absolutely love my wife. I would die for her. I'm just wired different. If someone wants to leave, then I will help them leave. I have been with my wife for 15 years now, and married for 7 of those years. The only reason I would try to save the marriage is for the kids.
It truly is a blessing Mark. They hug each other and go on like old friends. My ex is a great woman we just weren't right for each other. It took awhile for her to figure that out, not so long for me. She's happy for me as I am for her; she's getting re-married in May. It didn't hurt my cred to have bent over backward to give her everything she could have asked for. Funny thing was, I made almost the exact amount it cost me the very next year, and believe me it wasn't cheap.
I can only hope anyone else who decides on divorce can end up as well.
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I always joke around with my wife and tell her if I ever catch her cheating, she will look like a Panda bear with a black eye.
I'm going to tell my wife that if she cheats on me, I need to meet the guy.
Not because I want to beat him up. No, I want to meet him because I absolutely have to meet the guy who is more blind and stupid than me. You don't run into that every day.
Keep in mind the 'system' is biased against fathers, even in 2008.
Common divorce theme: Stage one: She says he was a ___ husband. Divorce gets done, she's still unhappy, and doesn't like having less money. Stage two: The bad husband story doesn't play anymore and she doesn't like having to coordinate anything with the husband, so a new story emerges, he's a ___ father. Everything the kids ever do wrong is his influence, and she seeks every bit of additional 'control' possible over the kids. Her new goal: For kids to grow up and think mom was a saint for raising them and dad was a bum.
Don't lose sight of what that child means to you, and the relationship you want with that child 20 years from now.
It truly is a blessing Mark. They hug each other and go on like old friends. My ex is a great woman we just weren't right for each other. It took awhile for her to figure that out, not so long for me. She's happy for me as I am for her; she's getting re-married in May. It didn't hurt my cred to have bent over backward to give her everything she could have asked for. Funny thing was, I made almost the exact amount it cost me the very next year, and believe me it wasn't cheap.
I can only hope anyone else who decides on divorce can end up as well.
Well I guess you could be doing better if you could talk the new one and the ex into bed together
Rocco, hope all works out brother.When you have kids it's pretty tuff. You know what they say my friend " it's not always greener on the other side"...
why get married.you have the kids...just fuck away bro...sewrious..think about it. who in this room hasn't crossed there minds about bending over some hot chick.Not that we would go out and do it.But reality is we all have.Well some of you guys might have bend a few over..No names.hahahaah
I never say never, but I doubt I will ever get married again. Of course I said I'd never get married before the first one, and then I said I'd never get divorced, soooo.
The Redhead is cool with that (for now). She knows any other opinion would be the quickest route to the curb, at this point.
Not hardly. I don't have a wife currently and my ex is a great lady and anyone who has met her will tell you she's very hot, even with a few years on her.
When a girl cheats it real hard for a lot of guys. The thing you need to look at is what is or was her state of mind when she did that. Many people do something like that cause they know something is not right, don't want to break up, yet want to create something to enable an out. With all that physco babble there is a point. She could very well love you very much and not long for another man, rather needed to escape from the hurt and did it in an unconstructive way. Everything gets easier with time. Give eachother some space and things will work out, they always do.
