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I'll testify on behalf of divorce being a wonderful thing, and that it is possible to remain friends with your ex. I won't go into the details, but life is too short to go through it unhappy, or to dwell on the past, or waste away wishing it were different. Give her whatever she wants so long as she's fair with the kids, never compromise at their expense. You can and will obtain more things and money; money and things don't equal happiness.

Saleen, I don't know you and you seem like a good guy but I can't disagree with your post more. A year later and you think about her every second of the day? Good god man, get a grip, and go see a shrink. Seems like you suffocated her, reading what you wrote, and that's why she wants nothing to do with you. From my experience people are interested in each other when they have a life and interests outside each other that they can share and compare. I've been smothered and tried to smother, and it just doesn't equal love and the respect you have for someone when they don't forsake themselves for you. I'll bet those girls who are falling all over you are mostly that way because they sense they can't have you. If you started dating one and shortly thereafter did the rose petal in the tub deal they would think 'oh that's nice' then 'WTF is wrong with this guy?'

Rocko (and Saleen) get some professional advice and get on with your life. Give the Ex whatever she wants materially and be respectful as much as you can. If possible, trade things for more exposure to the kids, they are all that matter in this and how you act will make all the difference to them.