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I went through the same mess last year. Mine went nuts in the pregnancy stage, and it really just got so far out of control, she couldn't put it back together. Admitting to one lie meant she had to admit to a thousand others. She wasn't willing to take a single step in the right direction, and then was stone cold and beyond crazy during the divorce. After a ten year relationship with little to no fighting, it is strange to say the least when stuff like this happens.
One thing you will realize going through this is how many have gone through the exact same thing. Girls are just different creatures. Ones that fall off the track can only put themselves back on. It doesn't matter how much you beat yourself up or try, ultimately it is their call to get it back together.
Now, for your warning. You naturally love the person who is putting the knife through your heart. I am a soft guy, and tried to give her everything I possibly could....such as living 6 hours away with her family. STUPID FUCKING MOVE. I thought she needed that to get better....WRONG. It is a PITA to spend time with my little one, and that will only get worse.
Also, make the best of it for your little one. At a year and a half, my little guy knows what is going on. He cries at the airport, says DADA every single time someone's phone rings, etc... It kills me, and what will kill you even more is realizing the person you vowed to marry has no feeling or clue as to what is all around her. Divorce IMO is too easy of an exercise. The hard part comes in being decent after the fact. Also, WATCH your finances. That is an understatement in my case.
It isn't fun Rocko. I used to describe myself as the old guy in Shawshank Redemption who didn't want out of jail, and didn't know how to function on the outside. Well, two years later, and I am still learning how to behave and carry on normal life. Allow yourself to move on. That is what has held me back for the past two years, and I am just starting to feel back to normal.
All the best. Hang in there.
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