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Very sad to hear. Being married to someone who needs help can be one of the biggest emotional roller coasters you can ever find yourself on. One thing to consider is sometimes, when they are sick (my term), instead of trying to embrace the ones they love and need most, they try push them away and will say very hurtful things like "Like I fell out of love with you". They don't feel deserving, they life is crumbling around them and it almost becomes a self fulfilling prophesy they are acting out. Trust me, I have been there. It was not easy and my wife did everything to push me away, but being I am slow (actually being very committed to my marriage) I was eventually able to get my wife to the help she needed. It all came to a head after about 5 years of marriage......needless to say, we celebrated our 15 anniversary last September. She couldn't have done it without my relentless persistence, but I also knew there was much I would never accomplish in many facets of my life without her too.
Not saying my situation is the same as yours Rocko, but just some additional perspective to consider.
Damn, please don't make me regret sharing personal shit on here VA crew.
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